Have you ever been in a really good place in a relationship, but suddenly start acting differently? You push your partner away, test their love for you, or become overly clingy. Your behaviour is causing conflict and it’s almost like you’re determined to mess things up. Self-sabotage is behaviour that creates problems and prevents the achievement of goals and happiness. It is particularly common in people who experience negative beliefs
You suddenly notice an increase in heartrate and breathing, your palms get sweaty, and you can’t shake that queasy feeling at the pit of your stomach. You brain has detected a threat and is alerting you to it: you are experiencing anxiety. Anxiety is important for our survival. It grabs our attention and lets us know that there is potential harm waiting. However, this alarm system can become overly sensitive,
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom (Viktor Frankl). Frankl was an Austrian psychiatrist who survived the horrors of the Holocaust. He grounded many of his later theories in the understanding that not being able to change our circumstances does not make us helpless. Instead, we can make the choice to change our
People tend to think that depression involves being sad and hiding away from the world. While that may be a part of it, depression can be much deeper than that. Depressed individuals often refer to depression as a dark cloak, dark cloud, or blackhole that dulls everything. The sense of something heavy settling in, and not being able to shift this. People cannot just “think their way out of depression”.
Do you feel like you are constantly running? Is work causing you anxiety and sleepless nights? Have you achieved so much, yet cannot slow down to enjoy what you have? We get caught in patterns that at once helped us to achieve our goals, but now rather put stress and pressure on us. But old habits die hard, even if they no longer serve us well. Therapy can help us
Your partner makes a silly comment over dinner, but suddenly the energy between you abruptly changes. You might feel tears stinging at the back of your eyes, your throat gets tight, your stomach drops, and a wave of hurt flows over you. You withdraw or lash out. Your partner is confused – they didn’t mean it that way. What just happened? We have situations like this every day: one small